Teela Hart

Surviving Domestic Violence

This Hurts


I’ve been free from domestic violence for sixteen months and these words continue to elicit an undeniable visceral response upon hearing them.  The regurgitation of such verbiage is in fact a tool used by all abusers to keep their victims in a perpetual state of confusion and fear.

Reading the stories of so many victims/survivors of domestic violence and finding that they all resonate with me in so many ways is disturbing.  More importantly though, they loose me from the ties that bind as the script that somehow landed in every abuser’s hands is just that, a script, devoid of any real meaning.

If you or someone you know is a victim of domestic violence, please visit http://www.nomore.org for a list of domestic violence centers specific to your location. You can also contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at http://www.thehotline.org or call 1-800-799-SAFE (7233). If you feel you are in immediate danger contact your local law enforcement by calling in the U.S. 911




Author: Teela Hart

I am a mother, daughter, sister and domestic violence survivor.

17 thoughts on “This Hurts

  1. Kudos for helping others. Maybe doing that helps you too? It sometimes works that way.


  2. Great post- and yes, sometimes just verbiage…some people leave & go back (sometimes multiple times). People like yourself that get the word out- that help educate abused victims helps them to finally get away for good! Great informative post !!


  3. I still can’t believe we left at the same time… separated by just a handful of days as were the issuance of our orders and their expiration. Unfortunately for you and the kids, this emotional abuse still continues. I can never understand how the courts allow the abusive parent to remain in their former victim’s life and abuse them by proxy. How can they not know this is going on?

    I am so glad you were able to get out of the house with the children. You are a strong, wonderful woman and such a good example for your children. Maybe someday you will see that you are as well.

    Love you 🙂


    • I think that it is a sign that we should find each other as you’ve been so encouraging and you always life me up.
      I don’t understand the judge”s decision thereby leaving the visitation up to the kids discretion. I guess it shows his complete lack of understanding of how abusers work.
      Love you too ❤


  4. Hard-hitting, heart-breaking and, ultimately, redemptive, Teela – but you are so right about the abusers’ tools and their chaining effect. Fly free, brave lady! xxx


    • Thank you Ali,
      I really try to find and write hard hitting posts to make.
      Sometimes I wonder if I should do that and then, ultimately, I do.
      Thank you for your Encouragement.


      • Yes, Teela, I think you should; I know you are doing the right thing – because abusers depend upon us saying, ‘Oh, it’s not that bad; I must be imagining it; I am the problem not him/her…’ Hard-hitting posts remind us ALL that abusive behaviour is destructive, appalling and REAL. We are not imagining it, exaggerating it or making it up for attention.
        You are a voice for the silent thousands.


      • Thank you Ali,
        I really needed to hear/read this today.
        You are a truly great encouragement and I want you to know how much I appreciate it.
        Big Hugs
        T ❤


  5. Sad. Glad you are free friend 🙂


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    This Hurts


  8. Ouch!
    Watched the video.


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