Teela Hart

Surviving Domestic Violence

Things You Don’t Know About Me


Who am I?

Sensitive views on politics, religion, and correct grammar will not be found here. Sentence fragments, slang, political incorrectness, contractions, passive voice and the word ‘but’ will be.

Believe it or not, I am a private person to a degree. I suppose we are all the same in that respect. Some things I will share and some I see no benefit in sharing. I learned that in rehab.

The question of who I am has plagued most of my life. I continue in my lack of assurance today. But, here are a few things I do and say without hesitation in the real world and sometimes the cyber world.  No matter who’s lookin’.

If I see grocery carts in a parking space, I have a mini fit. Recently, I pulled into the parking lot to find said spectacle in a handicap space and much to my children’s chagrin; I promptly let the bag boy know, just in case he didn’t.

Recently, a door-to-door salesman stopped by and finagled his way past my mom who was visiting. To my children’s embarrassment and my mom’s I’m sure, I abruptly told him to get out, following behind ensuring that he did.  We have hard wood floors and he was selling carpet shampoo. This is a no-brainer in my mind.

I buy boxes of food for those less fortunate at the grocery store. If I am waiting my turn at a check-out and see that someone is struggling to come up with the cash, I take care of it.  I’m talking a couple of bucks here.

In nursing school, one of my classmates failed by .3 of a point. At her request, I went through her tests with her to be sure the instructors didn’t miss anything. I was told to drop it or drop out. I dropped it.

I’m certain I could never live in a mansion and even more certain I could not be a snob, although I have been called a snob on more than one occasion. I am terribly shy, and usually at a loss for words, I suppose this landed me in the snob category more than once.

I’m not “cool”, never have been, although I’ve tried to be. I’ve failed. Miserably.

Socially, I’m a misfit. I really have to think hard on what I’m going to say and I still sound like the village idiot most of the time.

I laugh when I’m not supposed to, I cry the same.

Witty is not a word I would use to describe myself.  Although I did use that word to describe myself at my daughter’s insistence.

Unless I see your face and attempt to read your non-verbals, sarcasm sometimes usually escapes me.

The things I share and the way I share them are all me. The heart and soul of me.

I’m not a writer as such but I get by with a little help from my friend, MS Word.

I don’t sound as Southern on paper as I do in person. Unless I’m in your comment box, without MS Word.

I love the fact that I am Southern. I’ve been called a Southern redneck and it tickled me good. It was their attempt at flattery. It worked.

Living the life of a domestic violence survivor is a hard row to hoe, and there are times I chop the shit out of it. More times than not, I’m up shit’s creek without a paddle.

I’ve attempted to watch every “war movie” ever made, I don’t like chic flicks and I love listening to Lynyrd Skynyrd.

My entire wardrobe consists mainly of faded jeans, tank-tops, and flip flops.  Winter wardrobe includes a jacket and boots.

I use terms and phrases such as:



Look a yonder.

Can’t beat that with a stick.

I’m fixin’ to. (In a minute)


Don’t git ya gander up. (Don’t be upset)

What brings you to my neck of the woods? (my house)


Kin (cousin)

Sounds like the pot calling the kettle black to me. (One idiot calling another idiot an idiot)

Shit (my personal favorite).

One more thing. MS Word has this document lit up like a Christmas tree and it really sticks in my crawl, so I’m gonna post this before I change my mind.  Plus, my daughter is telling me to stop stalling.

Author: Teela Hart

I am a mother, daughter, sister and domestic violence survivor.

59 thoughts on “Things You Don’t Know About Me

  1. So glad to have found you.. love a ‘like’ free spirited woman! Very cool! XoXo


  2. You are truly my kinda girl! I’m in ride or die!

    Liked by 1 person

  3. Teela, thank you for stopping by my blog. Thank you also for making yourself vulnerable and real in this post. It brings healing to a lot of people.


  4. Oh, you ARE cool 🙂


  5. Things we know about you 🙂 after we read this post..thank you for sharing. and following too 🙂


  6. Hey Teela: Thanks for stopping by my site. I have to be honest with you. But, I was a little blown away while reading “Things I didn’t know about you.” For one, as a writer, you unquestionably held my attention and kept it. The things all writers aim for when they (we) write. So, I have to say I respect what you’ve accomplished. However, that is some serious information you shared, and my heart goes out to you. Outside of that, the displeasure you meet at every corner, seemingly keeps you strong. So, I say keep up the good work. No one has the baggage you carry. Peace!


    • Thank you for sharing your thoughts with me. Domestic Violence is a serious issue and it’s my hope that my story will help someone to be free or at the least know they are not at fault and they have other choices. Again, thank you for reading.


  7. Teela, this may very well be my favorite post you’ve written…we share so much in common, except I like chick flicks 🙂 I grew up Southern, and was teased a lot about my accent when I was younger. I lost most of it during my days of banking and teaching…but I’ve noticed it’s started to come back now that I work from home 🙂

    I absolutely love this post and the idea of it…perhaps I”ll follow suit in the near future…when I get a “Round Tuit” 🙂


    • LOL. I’m so glad you enjoyed it. It truly is a small world. Education and the workforce does have a way of refining the Southern right out of ya.
      Please do make a post of such. I would enjoy it for sure.


  8. shared this on facebook….wish i could write something to describe your intro but out of words really…. 🙂


  9. This post was most definitely deserving of another read. I stand by my original comments and add this:


  10. I love this. love this. LOVE THIS! It made me smile from start to finish. Look at you being your true self out there and wearing it proudly. You are just fabulous. Keep on writing, my dear, sentence fragments, southern twang, caring heart and all 🙂
    ps–I hate when people don’t put their carts away too! ugh! the nerve!


    • Thank you, thank you, THANK YOU!
      You might wanna steer clear of the bad language post. It’s over the top.
      I’ll probably take it down tomorrow.
      You made my night.
      Big ole smiles. 🙂


  11. I really enjoyed this- especially the part about sentence fragments, passive voice and contractions. A woman after my own heart 🙂 And MS Word is a friend/enemy of us all 🙂


  12. I love this post and I now want to meet you more than ever…shame there’s an ocean between us! ❤


  13. Thank you for finding me and following… Looks like we have much in common. Including our wardrobe, and I am going to see Lynyrd Skynyrd. I just moved to Arizona and next week is ” Arizona Bike week ” My husband and I ride Harleys , Lynyrd Skynyrd is playing during bike week along with Joan Jett and ZZ Top. I am super excited. Wishing you a world of peace and love.


  14. Reblogged this on By the Mighty Mumford and commented:
    GOOD TO KNOW!!!! 🙂


  15. When you write you sound more articulate than your personal language that you speak. I am so glad you shared this with us! Smiles, Robin


  16. This is so great! I found myself nodding as I read it, particularly because I also am not cool and a bit of a misfit – I like those things. And, I’m not at all surprised to hear that you ‘practice what you preach’ with your everyday acts of compassion.


  17. I think this is the most I have heard from you ‘personally’ since I started following your blog. I knew you were a brave woman but you’re also very kind it seems – and don’t worry about spell check it’s just there to make you feel bad – of that I’m POSITIVE. Thanks for sharing as it adds another dimension when reading your posts. I love the idea of the southern twang and I’ll be imagining now when I read your work.


    • Thank you so much Jenni. That means a lot to me. I feel like I’ve been hiding me to a degree. Self preservation I suppose. I have never been comfortable in my own skin but the folks here have made me feel more at ease. That includes you.


  18. Teela, I love you
    Cherish is a word to describe an asshole.
    Both of us know assholes.
    We left them.
    Didn’t We?


  19. Way to authenticate, Teela! I’m right with you in the South! I can speak Southern and Western, so I am “bilingual” for my area;-). I have the biggest parties and events in my own mind…I’ve always been more of a writer than a talker-probably due to a speech problem that I was teased about growing up-no more speech issue…but the quiet me remained.


    • Hey sister, and neighbor!!!!
      We are kindred spirits in more ways than one.
      My sister is in CA, she can speak just about any way she wants to. And she takes the “when in Rome” thing serious. Thank you so much for making me feel at home.


  20. It’s nice getting to know you. This was a great post. It looks like you and I have a lot in common. I also cry and laugh at the wrong times, and sing songs in my head at funerals to avoid crying. Unlike you, I do enjoy chic flicks. I’m a sap for love stories. Having grown up in Texas, I love the southern accent. Always reminds me of home.


    • Likewise.
      Thanks for the vote of confidence. My daughter forces me to watch chick flicks, it is possible that I may find one I like soon enough.
      I look forward to reading more of you. Southern makes me happy too.
      You might want to check out texantales.com. He is funny, and one of the bloggers who reminded me that I am Southern and I should embrace it. If you stop by his place tell him I sent you.


  21. I am a Northerner, but I spent a decent amount of years in the South. Whenever I am talking seriously to my kids, whenever I am saying something that I really want them to hear, I git a lil Southern accent… and I insist on saying y’all. I write it, too, where it belongs. It’s comfortable, and it makes others comfortable. Thank you for sharing yourself.


  22. What a great post! You are my kinda chick!! I am a Yankee, but I’ve got some southern roots. Play me some FreeBird anytime and I will melt like butter on fresh hot corn made in my grandma’s iron skillet! Oh, add a side of greens and shoofly pie!


    • You go girl!!!!! Freebird is my theme song. I love cornbread and collards.
      I love everybody, I married a Yankee the 1st time.
      I’m not so sure you are a Yank. 😉


  23. I am a social misfit too and I relate to you greatly. Your honesty and capacity to be who you are, is something I treasure in people.
    Keep being you…..please!


    • I have to admit there are more than a few bloggers who have given me the strength to do just that.
      I have found a lot of support here. We’ll support each other. That’s what we do.
      Thank you. I’m glad we found each other.


  24. Ten thumbs up! And I only have two…


  25. Cheers to being Southern Girls! Great post!!!!


  26. Guess who TOTALLY loves it when Tee comes out of her shell to say “hello world!”?…
    MEEEE! Hugs, girl…great post!

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