Teela Hart

Surviving Domestic Violence

Shaking My Head


I overheard a conversation recently in which an individual stated, “DV has nothing to do with the growing healthcare crisis and the economy.”

Domestic violence victims lose nearly 8 million days of paid work per year in the US alone—the equivalent of 32,000 full-time jobs.

The costs of intimate partner violence in the US alone exceed $5.8 billion per year: $4.1 billion are for direct medical health care services, while productivity losses account for nearly $1.8 billion.

In the news:

Judge “X” Turned Blind Eye, Woman Dead

Police Officer “J” Arrested For Beating His Wife and Children

Attorney “C “Arrested For Killing Fiancé

DV Shelters Closing Due To Strain Caused By Budget Cuts

Wife Murdered After Alleging Husband Abused Her

Legal Aid Funds Cut

Based on reports from 10 countries, between 55 percent and 95 percent of women who had been physically abused by their partners had never contacted non-governmental organizations, shelters, or the police for help.

A friend told me, “Whatever happens behind closed doors is none of my business.”

Every 9 seconds in the US, a woman is assaulted or beaten.

Every day in the US alone, more than three women are murdered by their husbands or boyfriends.

Around the world, at least one in every three women has been beaten, coerced into sex or otherwise abused during her lifetime. Most often, the abuser is a member of her own family.

Shaking my head.

If you or someone you know is suffering in Domestic Violence please click the link below:


Author: Teela Hart

I am a mother, daughter, sister and domestic violence survivor.

17 thoughts on “Shaking My Head

  1. Dear Teela,
    My Grandmother was a victim of domestic violence for fifty years. Reading your posts has made me want to tell her story. My Mom, My Sister, and My Brother will not be happy for shaking this skeleton out of our family closet and certainly my Grandmother would not approve, but I am going to do it anyway.


    • Lance,
      I just have to tell you that I think it is a very brave thing to do. I have tears in my eyes from reading this. It means so much for others to speak out and I feel privileged that you shared this with me. DV is an ugly thing but you have no idea how much breaking the silence means to survivors, and I thank you for it.


    • Also, when you do make that post would it be ok if I re-blog it ? It would mean a lot to me.


      • Of course. I would be honored. It may be a day or two; as I am stuck in two other post-projects. Hehe. You know how it is. So many posts, so little time.
        Seriously, please look for it soon and reblog if you like it.


      • Thanks LA, I look forward to the others too and you know it. 🙂
        Your posts give me a giggle each and every time.


  2. Lot of ignorance around. Great stats


  3. Ugh. Some people are really blind to DV, aren’t they? Thank you for this post, telling it like it really is!


  4. Statistics are scary…too bad people still play possum in 2014. Great post!


    • Thank you Sunshine. It’s true about the graphics, every time I reply or mention your post (in a good way) in the comment section I type Lips first. Sorry.

      It is a shame people refuse to look at the ugly truth.

      Jack Nicholson: “The truth….you can’t handle the truth” would have been a good title with a picture of that scene in that movie that I can’t remember the name of. LOL


  5. Great Post Teela. Sadly, there are no statics for Sociopath/Psychopath abuse etc. Those ‘wounds’ a person cannot see, though we sure can FEEL them!


    • Thank you Tela. Emotional abuse is considered a form of domestic violence. I think Socio/Psycho fits well in that category. 🙂
      The invisible wounds are the most difficult b/c they can hide behind a plethora of other things.


  6. keep shouting this my dear teela. It needs to be heard. You are so right!


    • Thank you for supporting me, I really need it. We can do it together.

      I also thought that we could join forces here on word press and post one or two domestic violence statistics/info on the same day each week along with a few words and help links.
      Is that even possible?
      How would one go about doing something like that?


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