Teela Hart

Surviving Domestic Violence


Let’s Talk About This


Let me warn you now that this post contains graphic content and may be / is offensive and is not suitable for anyone, ever. However, I have included one video and one link in order to make my point that Domestic Violence is NOT tolerable.

I am a true music lover and typically, I am opened to most any style of music. The preferred music is primarily wrapped up in the 70’s classic rock genre.

However, I do enjoy classical music, Vivaldi’s “Four Seasons” (Winter) ranking number one. Others; Black Sabbath’s “Iron Man”, Queen’s “Bohemian Rhapsody”, Black Veil Bride’s “In the End” ; you get the gist. I believe that a true music lover can appreciate all styles of music, as they are personal expressions of art, all the while maintaining personal preference. Obviously.

Not too long ago, I discovered my daughter watching a few music videos and was immediately alarmed by the message it was conveying to the younger male and female generation. I realize that practically every generation has said, what I am about to say. BUT, shattering sirens went off in my brain. DO. NOT. LISTEN. TO. THAT. And for the sake of women everywhere DO. NOT. WATCH. THAT. EVER. AGAIN. Although I didn’t let those words fly from my lips, I’m sure my non-verbal reaction was LOUD and CLEAR.

Upon gathering myself, I decided to broach the subject with caution, as rebellion is the very nature of a teenager. However, my daughter is not your average teen. Until a year ago, she has seen and experienced domestic violence her entire life. I had tragically given her the idea that DV is “normal” and let me tell you people, it’s damn near impossible to unscramble an egg. Well it is impossible; the only recourse is to make an omelet.  The mastery of omelet making continues to be a work in progress.

I suppose the purpose of posting these grisly videos is to inform parents everywhere that they are offensive, degrading, debasing, demeaning and a whole lot of other adjectives. While I recognize we are entitled to freedom of speech and censorship is a controversial issue; it remains our duty as parents to retain a certain amount of vigilance over these matters.

To some, this issue may run along the lines of beating a dead horse. To me it is something that stirs blistering passion from deep within my very being with these videos fueling the fire.  It is teen dating violence awareness month and the very nature of this particular, crippling, beast is silence.


There are many more out there, however, I don’t have the stomach for any more!

Author: Teela Hart

I am a mother, daughter, sister and domestic violence survivor.

6 thoughts on “Let’s Talk About This

  1. It’s terrifying that popular culture glamourises violence against women in so many ways – particularly through music. Step up Rhianna’s ‘S&M’, Eminem’s ‘I love the way you lie’ (one of my abuser’s favourites, by the way) and many more. There’s also the way that women are denigrated across the media, turned into passive or sexualised objects for viewing pleasure.

    Any serious messages that these artists are trying to get across (and lets face it, mostly they are just trying to sell records) are lost in the ‘romantised’ nature of the images that are stuffed down the throats of our children.

    It will take the new wave of feministas to push through a radical change agenda – all over again!


  2. Oh my God. It is sad that videos like this are made for our youth to watch. Watching violence like this and even on video games makes violence acceptable to young minds. So sad but true. Thanks for sharing.


  3. Very disturbing. Clearly the band was making a point but it takes watching the whole video to see it. This bring up the whole “why do they stay issue” which is not something people don’t understand. I have seen too many blogs making it seem like this abuse is easily solved by making seemingly “logical” decisions. It is not that simple. There are many posts on the internet by psychologists to debunk the “just leave” idea. I can understand why someone not exposed to this scourge would think that leaving is the obvious answer but understanding how it abuse works and it’s insidious progression is key to doing something about it.


    • I agree 100%. I lived it for 19 years. It is only by an act of God that I was able to free myself.
      The reason I made the post was to hopefully make people aware of only a tiny piece of the puzzle which is the promotion of violence as acceptable to our younger generation.
      Thank you so much for taking the time to share your feelings with me.


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